- See
- Heal
- Gather
- Trust
- Express
Stage 03 · Feel what's real Lesson 3 of 3
Understanding the why and the how
Look at what happened with the understanding you have now.
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Lesson three. Understanding the why and the how. Look at what happened with the understanding you have now. Once a feeling has moved, you can look at what happened with the understanding you have now. You see why you reacted the way you did, and often why the others did too. This is where forgiveness starts. Forgiving doesn't mean it was fine, or that you'll let it happen again. It means choosing to stop carrying it, for your own freedom. Why it matters. Understanding frees the energy resentment was using, and you'll need that energy to build something new. For example. Seeing that a harsh manager was terrified of losing their own job. Or: Realizing your younger self stayed quiet because speaking up wasn't safe then. It is now. Where this leads. It closes stage 3: the hard chapter is understood, not just survived. Hold on to this. You were doing the best you could with what you knew. So, often, were they.
Hold on to this
You were doing the best you could with what you knew. So, often, were they.
The lesson
Once a feeling has moved, you can look at what happened with the understanding you have now. You see why you reacted the way you did, and often why the others did too.
This is where forgiveness starts. Forgiving doesn't mean it was fine, or that you'll let it happen again. It means choosing to stop carrying it, for your own freedom.
Why it matters
Understanding frees the energy resentment was using, and you'll need that energy to build something new.
Where this leads
- See
- Heal
- Gather
- Trust
- Express
It closes stage 3: the hard chapter is understood, not just survived.
For example
Seeing that a harsh manager was terrified of losing their own job.
Realizing your younger self stayed quiet because speaking up wasn't safe then. It is now.
If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?
In plain words
The friction you went through is what made you clearer. Without it, you'd see less.
For this lesson
Understanding the why turns an old rub into polish: you see yourself, and them, more clearly.
Your practice · about 7 min
Retell the story as the person you are now, as if you were explaining it to a friend who loves you.
Why it mattersTelling it from today shows you how far you've come.
Tell it to a friend, as the person you are now.
Begin with: "What happened was…"
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