Stage 09 · Guard your energy · Lesson 2 of 3 Boundaries are self-respect
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  5. Express

Stage 09 · Guard your energy Lesson 2 of 3

Boundaries are self-respect

See boundaries as self-respect and self-love, not a wall.

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Lesson two. Boundaries are self-respect. See boundaries as self-respect and self-love, not a wall. An energy leak is anything that drains you out of proportion to what it gives back: a meeting that could have been an email, a friend who only calls with problems, a phone you check fifty times a day. A boundary is a simple line that stops the leak without harming anyone: "I'm not available for that." "I'll get back to you tomorrow." It isn't a wall. It's self-respect: knowing your worth, and acting like it. Why it matters. Authentic expression takes energy. Boundaries protect it, so you have something left for the work that's yours. For example. Leak: answering messages at eleven at night. Boundary: "I reply during work hours." Or: Leak: free advice calls with anyone who asks. Boundary: "Happy to help. Here's how to book a session." Where this leads. It keeps your energy for the voice you're building. Hold on to this. A boundary is where your care for yourself begins. Saying no to what drains you is saying yes to your service.

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Hold on to this

A boundary is where your care for yourself begins. Saying no to what drains you is saying yes to your service.

The lesson

An energy leak is anything that drains you out of proportion to what it gives back: a meeting that could have been an email, a friend who only calls with problems, a phone you check fifty times a day.

A boundary is a simple line that stops the leak without harming anyone: "I'm not available for that." "I'll get back to you tomorrow." It isn't a wall. It's self-respect: knowing your worth, and acting like it.

Why it matters

Authentic expression takes energy. Boundaries protect it, so you have something left for the work that's yours.

Where this leads

  1. See
  2. Heal
  3. Gather
  4. Trust
  5. Express

It keeps your energy for the voice you're building.

For example

  • Leak: answering messages at eleven at night. Boundary: "I reply during work hours."

  • Leak: free advice calls with anyone who asks. Boundary: "Happy to help. Here's how to book a session."

A line from RumiClose
Your old life was a frantic running from silence.
Rumi, tr. Coleman Barks

In plain words

Busyness can be a way of never hearing yourself.

For this lesson

Energy leaks keep you running. A boundary gives you back the quiet where your own voice is heard.

Your practice · about 6 min

Name your three biggest energy leaks. Then write one short, kind boundary sentence for each.

Why it mattersA sentence ready in advance is one you'll actually use.

01

Your three biggest energy leaks.

  1. Leak one
  2. Leak two
  3. Leak three
02

A short, kind boundary sentence for each leak.

  1. For leak one
  2. For leak two
  3. For leak three

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